There is a thriving younger scene in the UK for people in their 20s and 30s, particularly within the sex positive, fetish and events worlds, which tend to draw a younger and more diverse crowd than traditional swingers clubs. If you are younger and worried the scene is all older couples, the good news is that there is a vibrant world built around your age group, you just need to know where to look.
The scene is bigger and more varied than its stereotype, and a large part of it skews young.
Where the younger crowd goes
The fastest growing and most youthful part of the adult lifestyle world is the sex positive events scene. These events, often blending rave culture, art and play, attract a predominantly younger, queer and diverse crowd, and have become the natural home for people in their twenties and thirties exploring their sexuality openly. The fetish and kink scene also has a strong younger contingent, with club nights and events that are as much about music, fashion and community as anything else.
By contrast, some traditional swingers clubs do skew older, so if you want a younger crowd, the events and sex positive scenes are usually the better fit.
What to expect
Younger scene events tend to be energetic, creative and strongly community minded. Expect a focus on consent that is woven through everything, a diverse and open crowd, and an atmosphere that blends socialising and dancing with workshops, performance and play spaces. Dress codes range from creative to fetish to relaxed depending on the event. The vibe is often closer to a great underground party with an inclusive, sex positive ethos than to the traditional image of the scene.
Getting started
Look for sex positive events and younger fetish nights, particularly in larger cities where the scene is most active. Read how an event describes its crowd and ethos. Go with an open mind, start by enjoying the social and musical side, and let things unfold. As everywhere, consent is paramount and nothing is obligatory.
Our guides on what a sex positive event is, what to expect at your first fetish night and first-visit nerves are good starting points.
To find events that suit a younger crowd, browse our events page and directory.
Frequently asked questions
Is the lifestyle scene only for older people?
No. There is a thriving younger scene for people in their 20s and 30s, particularly within the sex positive, fetish and events worlds, which draw a younger and more diverse crowd.
Where do younger people in the scene go?
The sex positive events scene is the most youthful part, often blending rave culture, art and play. The fetish and kink scene also has a strong younger contingent.
What are younger scene events like?
Energetic, creative and community minded, with a strong consent culture, a diverse crowd, and a blend of socialising, dancing, workshops, performance and play. Often closer to an inclusive underground party than the traditional image of the scene.
How do I get started in my 20s or 30s?
Look for sex positive events and younger fetish nights, especially in larger cities. Read how an event describes its crowd, go with an open mind, and start with the social side.